Doolan, now 72 and serving a year jail term for the abuse he subjected his nephew to as a child, is a well-known figure in legal circles but his life as an abuser has never been publicised before now. Despite repeated court appearances and several criminal trials, he could not be named for legal reasons.
Those legal restrictions have now expired, and his nephew has decided to waive his anonymity to speak to The Irish Times. Doolan worked as a criminal barrister as a younger man before going on to lecture in the law. He was senior lecturer in legal studies in the business faculty at Dublin Institute of Technology.
He wrote books regarded as the definitive works of reference for those studying in the field and for legal practitioners. One of his seven legal texts, Principles of Irish Law , was first published in The eighth edition was published in , by which time, unbeknown to its publishers, he was under investigation for a string of sex crimes.
Head in the Sand
Back in the s Doolan also became one of the first single men in the State to adopt a child from abroad, a baby boy from eastern Europe who is now an adult. However, The Irish Times has learned that long before he had legally adopted a child abroad, Doolan registered a bogus home birth in Dublin. Reliable Garda sources said he regretted using his own name when registering the bogus home birth for a child who never existed and decided against persisting with his plans.
When he later adopted legally, an acquaintance who knew he was a sexual abuser went to Dublin Airport to try to convince him not to leave the country to collect the child. However, Doolan travelled. He then made history in taking a challenge to the Labour Relations Commission to the laws that offered no parental leave to single adoptive fathers.
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Doolan was convicted more than 12 months ago of abusing his nephew Stephen over a four-year period beginning in He had pleaded not guilty to 44 counts of abuse, including 11 counts of rape, and was convicted on all but two counts. Stephen had just turned 13 years when the abuse began and was 16 years old when it ended. His life would later descend into a haze of alcohol abuse, violence, disorder and self-harm as he self-medicated and spun out of control.
And on another occasion he took a meat cleaver to his body and still carries a large scar on his wrist as a reminder. He is a year-old father-of-three, including a newborn, and runs two successful online retail businesses. For kicks, he drives racing cars; quite successfully, too. He won the Hawthorn Trophy, a national competition for circuit racing. He also has several other national titles on his CV and spent a couple of seasons racing in Britain.
Lately he has been climbing mountains and has just returned from scaling Island Peak, close to Everest. He was 20 before he told his parents about the abuse, but it was another 12 years before he was able to contact the support agency One in Four. Another six years would pass before his uncle was convicted.
The process fostered inner strength and personal growth, he says. But at the same time it nearly killed him, especially the combative court case, which made him feel like he was the one on trial. It all started in Dublin in Stephen was a schoolboy living in Swords, ready to leave primary school.
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Doolan, he says, was the self-appointed head of the family; the most educated of them all and the high achiever to whom everyone turned for advice. He was one of six siblings. He was fiercely independent, paying his way through college with part-time work. On leaving secondary school, he first worked as a postman before his time at Trinity. Once there he worked night shifts in the Irish Press.
When his brother was electrocuted aged 21 on a building site in England, he was the one who stepped forward to go and collect the remains, sparing his parents the ordeal.
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